5 Signs of Getting Better in Grief

accomplishment action adult adventure Here are five indications that we mourners may be healing in our grief:

Our sense of humor returns Suddenly we are smiling, laughing & experiencing joy in life. Our old mood swings don’t go as low as they used to. We can feel the time lengthen between our highs and lows.

The way we talk about our loved one changes We begin to focus on our memories of loved ones with joy & laughter rather than sadness & crying. We focus more on the life of the loved one rather than their death & our loss.

Our social activities change We “return to life” by renewing relationships and/or beginning new ones. We build a support system that assists us in reconciling ourselves to life without our loved one.

We display confidence & hope for the future We learn we have the choice of how we respond to grief & how we live our lives. We begin to heal, grow & hope for the future. We realize that there are things to look forward to each day of our life.

We maintain our relationship with the loved one in a new way We understand that our relationship cannot exist as it used to. But we also realize our relationship with the loved one has not ended with death. We maintain our spiritual & emotional ties to the person.

Written by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide “Love Never Dies: Embracing Grief with Hope and Promise”  available online at Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Christianbook.com.

The grief survival guide is also available in Spanish as “El Amor Nunca Muere: Aceptando el Dolor con Esperanza y Promesa” on Amazon.com.

Larry is the director of GriefWorks, a free grief support program for children and their families in Dallas TX  http://grief-works.org.